For life to be enjoyed, or even make sense, you need a foundation. Your life is a house and unfortunately for most, like the first attempts of the little piggies, it is not built in a way to hold up through a stong wind and certainly not a strong storm.
For most, the problem is we didn't lay the foundation, how could you...you were an infant/toddler/adolescent/pre-teen you were not
You cannot lay the foundation.
Your parents or wards or syblings or whomever raised you laid the foundation.